5 top signs of f.a.k.e love in a relationship
To really know whether the love in your relationship is genuine or not, here are some of the signs to look out for.
Is the love in your relationship real, or fake?
If it is, all you should do is keep growing the love, keep staying truthful to each other, keep drinking a lot of water, and just keep treating each other in all the good ways that will allow the relationship to thrive further.
On the flip side, fake love is not something anyone would want to live with. Sadly, it is exactly what some people have in their relationships.
If the relationship is based on anything different from a genuine willingness to see the other person flourish in every sense of the word, if it is based on something fleeting and temporary, then it is likely fake.
To really know that the love in your relationship is fake, here are some things you may want to watch out for:
1. They’re emotionally distant
If you and your partner can’t connect with one another on an emotional level, then it’s a good sign that they don’t really love you.
Because how can you love someone you don’t understand? Your partner doesn’t open up to you or share their feelings with you. They’re cold, distant, and detached. They don’t comfort you when you’re down or share your happiness at your success. There’s nothing deep or meaningful about your relationship.
And sure, it takes time to build that kind of emotional intimacy with someone, but your partner isn’t even trying! It’s like they’re a stone wall that you’re never going to be able to climb, not unless they let down their guard with you.
2. Always willing to throw in the towel
Conflict happens in every relationship. It demonstrates the level of care that partners have for one another.
That said, every conflict demands a resolution.
If you’re the only one trying to resolve any conflict or problems that arise, it’s often a telltale sign of emotional detachment and this, of course, is a major sign you’ll find in people who have got only fake love for you.
They really won’t care whether the relationship works or fails.
3. They Try To Control You
Some people say that they’re not ready to commit just yet because they don’t want to be tied down to another person. But in a healthy relationship, you and your partner don’t control one another.
You maintain your independence and respect each other’s individuality. But your partner seems to have other ideas.
They tell you who you can and can’t go out with, what you can and can’t wear, or what time you need to be home.
They’re the ones who get to choose where you go or where you eat or what you do together. But true love has boundaries and it lets you be free to be your own person, and fake love doesn’t.
4. They don’t work with you to find solutions to problems.
Conflicts and disagreements are common in relationships, and work from both partners is required to resolve them. You both need to accept your responsibilities and meet somewhere in the middle. However, your partner isn’t interested in doing any of that, and they just walk away, waiting for the storm to calm down. They simply don’t care about listening to your worries.
Not only that, but they seem like they don’t care about your feelings and how they might have hurt you. A loving partner should be concerned about you and how their actions affect you negatively. You shouldn’t be poking to get a response that doesn’t solve anything.
5. They Don’t Prioritize You
Chances are your partner cancels your plans way too often, citing cheap excuses. They might also profess their sadness over this and how it’s “not in their hands” to control the situation. While canceling plans here and there is normal, when this behavior continues for way too long, then maybe you’re not enough of a priority to them.
It’s not about doing crazy activities or going on joint excursions with your friends, but about creating deep roots. So if they ask you to go on a long hike or to the beach together, they’re trying to spend some quality time with you. They might even rearrange their entire schedule if that’s what they need to do to see you.
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