Why Most Guys Can’t Get The Girl They Want, Even Though They’re Attractive
Why most men can’t get the girl they want, even though they are attractive
The answer to the above question is;
Because they have a fundamental misunderstanding about female attraction.
One of the biggest myths in the modern dating game is that females are attracted to males for the same reasons males are attracted to females, i.e. appearance.
They are not.
1. Understand why attraction occurs for females
Men falsely assume that just because we are attracted to physical beauty in women, women must, by nature, be attracted to the same things in men.
They aren’t. But for women, it’s not that simple.
For women, attraction is based on character and personality traits much more than on appearance.
A woman subconsciously needs to know that the man she sleeps with is capable of defending himself and his offspring (and yes, looks signal this), gentle enough to raise a child, dominant and assertive, yet compassionate and tender.
They want a tender defender. A man who is capable of acting with extreme violence to defend his family, but who can shut down his aggressive side to care for and nurture a child.
Appearance plays a role in attracting women, but only a small role. They care much more about how you act and who you are, and then how you look.
Your appearance simply isn’t that big a deal when it comes to procreation and raising a child. But your actions are.
2. Develop First and Most Favored
With the above facts in mind, your first order of business is to focus on your development first.
Sure, you may be a good-looking guy, but what else do you bring to the table? What value does he bring to a woman’s life?
Is he financially secure? Does he have the discipline and willpower to train hard in the gym, earn a good living, and pursue his own interests (all signs that he will have the determination to help her raise a child)?
Do you have a good sense of humor (a sign of emotional health), are you adventurous (another sign of emotional health), are you a positive and happy person?
Or are you just banking on your good looks to get laid?
The more you can develop yourself, the easier it will be to attract women. Sure, you can go the pickup route (been there, done that), but it won’t last.
So grow up, focus on you, and become the strongest version of you.
From this place it is much easier to attract the women you want.
3. Become more interesting and have more fun
After all, humans only have a short amount of time to spend on this planet and it is in our nature to desire liveliness.
Simply put, when someone is living a 10/10 life, they are more attractive to other people because they are making the most of this one chance they have for the human experience.
One of the best ways to attract and keep the women you want is to become truly alive.
How do you do that?
By becoming more interesting and having more fun.
Throw away your television, cancel your Netflix membership, use the money you are saving from entertainment to invest in dance lessons, a gym membership, or something else that will make you a more interesting man.
Learn a new language, learn to play an instrument, travel, explore, have fun, and live life to the fullest.
When women see a man living to his full potential and having fun, they naturally want to be around him because they know he will improve their lives.
They will be able to experience and enjoy life more by being with you.
This is their new goal.
4. Tell Your Truth and Make People Angry
One of the s£xiest things you can do as a man is to speak your truth.
Own who you are and what you believe. Tell your truth, even if it pisses people off.
If you want to sleep with a woman, don’t try to be her friend. Be honest about your intentions.
Stop trying to make everyone happy. Because you can’t and you’ll only hurt yourself in the process.
Be who you are and don’t be ashamed of it.
Being yourself and speaking your truth will naturally attract the right people into your life.
People who don’t like you for speaking your truth don’t deserve to be in your life anyway.
It’s as simple as that.
Source:ng.opera.news
