The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships.
Tempering your expectations of your partner will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering, in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter.
Which means it’s time to stop expecting these 7 things
1. Expecting your partner to always understand you
Your partner is also a human & no matter even if you have spent like 2 years together; don’t fall into thinking that your partner completely understands you.
See even though your partner senses that you are unhappy; don’t expect that he should also know the reason behind it because he is not your mind reader.
2. Expecting that your partner knows every detail about you
The details include- your likes, dislikes etc. Well, when asked about your favourite things don’t expect the right answer from your partner only because you know what they like.
Even though you have talked about your “like thing”- do understand a person can miss out on things sometimes.
3. Stop expecting them to suddenly change.
If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do.
For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try. Either you accept who they are or you choose to live without them. It’s might sound harsh, but it’s not. When you try to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t try to change them – when you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they gradually change in the most beautiful way. Because what really changes is the way you see them.
4. Stop expecting them to respect you more than you respect yourself.
True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles. It’s about having faith and trust in who you are, and a willingness to act upon it. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love, respect, and attention that you should be showing yourself.
Today, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you, and from now on I’m going to act like it.” It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself. When you practice self-love and self-respect, you give yourself the opportunity to be happy. When you are happy, you become a better friend, a better family member, and a better YOU.
5. To always spend time with you
It is quite obvious that you want your partner to be with you for like 24*7 but clearly that’s not how it goes in the day. Agree? And the reason is; your partner has their own space & therefore they love to be alone without you as well.
So better don’t create a scene by saying- your partner is not giving you time.
6. Expecting to have same opinions
Many fights occur due to this reason only. It is possible that your partner can have a different opinion about a certain situation. So; just don’t end up fighting about it.
7. Expecting that your partner will never hurt you
We all want that part to be true but it is not something that exist.
Be it unknowingly; it is never going to happen that you partner will NEVER-EVER going to hurt you. I mean; his different view on a certain topic can indirectly hurt you but that’s not your partner’s fault at all.
Reference: marcandangel.com
