We all dream of it. We all dream about finding our perfect match, our soul mate.
At least once in our life, we all met that person we hoped — and believed — was the one, only to realize later we were just projecting our idea of perfect partner onto someone we barely knew.
Finding someone compatible with us is harder than we imagine.
When you meet someone, and you two are meant to be together — that is, you are a great match and there is potential for a healthy and long-lasting relationship — you will see a few following signs
1. You share the same values.
Sharing the same values is key to long-lasting and healthy relationship. For example, your partner and you believe in monogamy and don’t tolerate infidelity. Or you both believe in the importance of leaving others free to express their opinion and make their choices.
When your significant other and you are aligned on your core values, there is potential for a healthy and long-lasting relationship.
2. You handle conflict respectfully and constructively.
Conflict in a relationship isn’t necessarily a sign that your relationship is in trouble—instead, the way you and your partner approach conflict is an important sign as to whether your relationship will stand the test of time.
Couples who enjoy long-term, healthy relationships are able to have issues, even major ones, without resorting to name-calling, put-downs, insults, and excessive criticism. They apologize when necessary and find ways to resolve an issue, reconnect, and move on.
If you feel safe, listened to, respected, and loved in your relationship—in and after an argument—you’ve probably found a perfect match.
3. Your partner is your best friend
You can comfortably be yourself around your partner. You don’t have to be the least bit pretentious just to create an impression on them. You can easily confide in them, tell them your most embarrassing stories, have deep conversations and simply laugh till it hurts. Along with the feelings you have for each other, this is equally important. The perfect partner is a blend of all the things one needs and wants.
4. You are strongly attracted to each other.
You have the feeling that time flies when you are together, and can’t get enough of each other. There is that undeniable spark between the two of you you can’t quite explain.
And everything feels easy between the two of you. You both feel that you are the best version of yourselves when you are together.
5. You accept them for who they are—and vice versa.
If you’re with the perfect match, you don’t have to change who you are in order for them to love you—and you don’t demand your partner to change who they are either.
This doesn’t mean neither one of you will ever change or that you’ll never do things the other person doesn’t like. But when you’re with the right person, your relationship feels like a container that naturally inspires you both to learn and grow. This helps you become more authentic versions of yourselves as time goes on.
6. Your life is going in the same direction.
This means your partner and you are basically following the same path — or a very similar one. For example, you both want to work remotely or you both want to travel a lot, so you are working towards achieving the same lifestyle.
Or maybe you both want to live in the same city, grow professionally and raise a family. You are both looking for stability.
Whatever your ideal life is, you have the same idea of fulfilling life path.
References: psychologytoday.com, goodmenproject.com
